Hello, Ms. Freshman.June 5, 2013 at 1:00 PM | Posted in Anna is my step-daughter., What's up? | 2 Comments
There was no ceremony. That was so weird to me. Why would there be a graduation-like event in 5th grade but not one in 8th grade? This seemed like a much bigger milestone to celebrate. But alas, middle school ended for Anna without much of a flourish . <sigh>
Now she is in summer gym, going to PE classes from 8 AM to noon four days a week throughout the month of June so she can take an extra elective during the school year. She is excited about high school. Her mother took her to the orientation and she came home declaring she wanted to join eleventy thousand clubs and activities.
Adolescence is challenging, yes, but so fun (so far). I constantly find myself in new situations—physically, mentally, emotionally—and successfully navigating that is rewarding. Let me be clear, “successfully” means that neither of us has suffered any permanent damage, not that neither of us came through without tears or hurt feelings. Through it all, though, there is love.
It has been my goal to help Anna become a responsible, respectful, and resourceful member of society. Lately I’ve been thinking resilient and relevant are important too. Luckily for me—for all of her parent(al figure)s—she is a already good kid who makes the world a better place. She is intelligent, funny, thoughtful, and kind.* She is open-minded. She is fun.
She doesn’t belong to me but you might still hear me mumble “Where’s my kid?” when I’ve lost sight of her in public as she’s wandered off to explore something or other, or “There’s ours!” as we point her out in the orchestra to another set of parents in the the audience. As a child of divorced parents I understand the power that comes with being a step-parent and I take that responsibility very seriously.
I’m so proud of her. Look out, Carmel High!
*I struggle with whether or not to include that she’s beautiful. Because I think she is and I want her (and the world) to know that I think so. But beauty is disproportionately valued in our society, particularly the characteristics that grace her, and I don’t want to emphasize features that are largely out of her control.