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Meme: Marriage

February 20, 2009 at 10:00 PM | Posted in Bill is my husband., I am curious. | 1 Comment

Inspired by Heather “Dooce” Armstrong, I’ve decided to honor My Man by laying open our relationship via blog meme.

What are your middle names?
Bill’s middle name is James (although he claimed it was Jesus — like Hey Zeus — when we first met). I have no middle name. Yes, really.

How long have you been together?
Since 8 June 2006. Do the math yourself, please.

How long did you know each other before you started dating?
About two weeks but only electronically. We met in person on our first date.

Who asked whom out?
We were matched by eHarmony. I don’t remember who initiated communication or who first broached the idea of a date.

How old are each of you?
I am 32 and Bill is 37.

Whose siblings do you see the most?
Firstly, the question should be Whose siblings do you see MORE? since a superlative would require us to be polygamists. That said, we see Bill’s sister — I am an only child.

Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Likely our VERY different communication styles…and maybe that I can be a real bitch on wheels when I’m hungry. We use the communication challenge as an opportunity for growth, though, so that’s good.

Did you go to the same school?
High school? No. University? No.

Are you from the same home town?
No. We are from different states.

Who is smarter?
Depends on the topic, although either of us could handily beat a box of rocks at any kind of IQ test.

Who is the most sensitive?
Okay, the question should be Who is MORE sensitive? That said, Bill is more sensitive most of the time. I have been told that I need to exhibit a little more empathy…by a qualified professional and not just by Bill.

Where do you eat out most as a couple?
I prefer the phrase dine out, thank you very much. La Hacienda probably tops the list for places where we stay to eat (as opposed to take out).

Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
London is the FARTHEST we have traveled together. Transatlantic is how we roll.

Who has the craziest exes?
We have each been married once before to people that are fundamentally NOT like the person we each chose this time around. That’s the most I’ll say on this topic in this kind of forum.

Who has the worst temper?
Not to beat a grammatical dead horse, but the question should be Who has a WORSE temper? Hard to say since we have such different styles. I’m more a yeller and Bill’s more a seether. We make a conscious effort not to let bad feelings fester, get out of control, or make us say things that are intentionally hurtful. I’m guessing he would say that I have a worse temper because he’s more sensitive to the yelling than I am to the seething.

Who does the cooking?
Mostly me. He likes eating meals more than making them and I despise doing dishes so we’ve worked out a little agreement that’s a win-win for both of us.

Who is the neat-freak?
Neither of us, thankfully, since the dogs cover everything in fur (and more disgusting things sometimes) and the child leaves a stream of detritus in her wake on the regular.

Who is more stubborn?
I don’t know.

Who hogs the bed?
Bill. Don’t listen to a damn thing he says otherwise, either.

Who wakes up earlier?
I do, generally.

Where was your first date?
Eagle Creek Park

Who is more jealous?
Bill is.

How long did it take to get serious?
After the first date we ditched our other matches and decided to see each other exclusively. Not long after that we had a feeling we were in this for the long haul.

Who eats more?
Bill does.

Who does the laundry?
I do. It’s part of the agreement where he takes care of the yard work and trash duty.

Who’s better with the computer?
I think our competencies are comparable.

Who drives when you are together?
We make that decision on the fly based on the circumstances.